法领深活 · 实践中深化法领

三月下旬，带着是否要重返职场这重大考量的心情，我走进了吉隆坡法域（Dhamma Earth KL），参加了为期四天的“法领深活 · 实践中深化法领”课程。(法领是法的领导学的简称，已经办了7届，这一次是让之前参与过的学员来更深度了解及学习）

我参与的目的，是希望学习如何“如理作意”，将佛法引用到工作管理与领导中，寻得一套可以依据的正确方法，同时也希望通过禅修培育定力。

虽然课程内容并非直接的“职场通关手册”，但尊者拨云见日的开示，却在更高维度上为我理清了人生的战略（可见度从 20% 提升到 60%，算是很棒的跨越了）。

战略与战术：别在迷雾中盲目奔跑

尊者深入浅出地剖析了“战略（Strategy）”与“战术（Tactics）”的本质区别：

• 战略：为实现长期目标而制定的取舍、核心优势及资源分配的总方向。

• 战术：落实这些方向的具体行动、方法与步骤。

生活中，我们往往容易陷入“战术勤奋”的陷阱。

比如：一个人决定“每天跑五公里”（战术），却从未想过为什么要跑。如果他的战略目标是“明年参加全马”，那这五公里的配速就需与饮食配合，然后逐步提升，才有意义，而不是一直跑五公里。毫无战略的战术执行很快会因动力枯竭而中断，最终迷失方向。

我认为，战略意志的缺失，才是职场与人生焦虑的根源。（也可能只是其中之一的根源，但肯定有关系吧）。

快乐的等级：十六分之一和十六分之十五的快乐

在追求快乐的路上，尊者引经据典，提到快乐分为：获得的快乐、享用的快乐、无债务的快乐以及无过失的快乐。

*后面自己借用谷歌查寻到尊者已经帮我们白话了，其出处是《增支部》中的《无负债经》，我ctrl+C, ctrl+V和大家分享:

拥有乐（Atthi-sukha）：因拥有以正当手段获得的财富而感到快乐。
受用乐（Bhoga-sukha）：在受用、享用合法财富时感到快乐。
无债乐（Anaṇa-sukha）：不论财富多少，不负债、无债务纠纷而感到的安心与快乐。
无罪乐（Anavajja-sukha）：因为身、口、意三业清净，通过如法行为获得财富而产生的毫无愧疚的快乐

尊者提到前三者（物质与财务上的快乐）加起来，竟然不及“无罪乐”的十六分之一。

坦白说，还非常世俗的我虽能理解，但并未能完全放下。如果有哪位看到这一段而可以放下物质财务的，请把你放下的财富放在我家门前（注：是财务，不是债务！千万别放错）。

尊者教导我们要拉长时间维度，不要在百米短跑里计较输赢。成就今生的快乐（短期）需技巧、护财、贵人与均衡；成就未来（中长期）则需在信、戒、施、慧上深耕。这部分意境深远，有一点Deep，等我功力提升后再来重温。

从“双赢”到“共惠”：全方位观照

另一个让我印象深刻的观点是关于“价值创造”。 尊者提到的不是简单的“互惠互利（Win-Win）”，因为有时两人的双赢可能建立在第三方的损失上。我们要追求的是“共惠共利”——让所有牵涉其中的因缘都能获益。这种全方位的考量（5 Elements of Contemplation），要求我们从时间（过去/现在/未来）、内外缘、粗细程度、优劣取舍以及远近距离去全面观照。

我知道这5 elements of contemplation 可能不容易理解，所以我借用了AI 帮忙来个例子，我又再ctrl+C, ctrl+V和大家分享：

很多人想通过运动变健康，但往往只看“粗”和“近”，结果半途而废。如果用这五个维度去观照，视野会立刻不同：

1. 时间（Time）：不仅看“现在”我想减肥，更要看“过去”是什么习惯导致了现在的体质？“未来”我希望 60 岁时拥有什么样的行动力？

2. 内在与外在（Internal & External）：我的体质（内缘）适合高强度还是温和的运动？我周围是否有支持我的跑团或家人（外缘）？

3. 粗与细（Coarse & Subtle）：体重秤上的数字是“粗”，容易看到；但运动后睡眠质量的提升、情绪的稳定、气血的顺畅，则是“细”，需要用心觉察。

4. 优与劣（Superior & Inferior）：晨跑的“优”是空气好、开启动力；“劣”可能是睡眠不足。我们要根据自己的作息去优化选择，避开那些让我们产生挫败感的安排。

5. 远与近（Far & Near）：由于“近”期肌肉酸痛就想放弃？还是为了“远”期那份不给家人添负担的独立生活而坚持？

通过这种全方位的观照，你会发现运动不再是一件痛苦的“战术任务”，而是一个清晰的“人生战略”。

战略不是一成不变的，而是动态的观照。就像健身，第一阶段的定位是每天走 5 公里，目标达成后需重新检讨定位：是维持现状，还是进阶调理？职场亦然，阶段性的成功是为下一阶段的战略腾出空间。不执着于当下得失，才能通往最终愿景。

感恩与结语

这次的学习让我明白，所谓的“战略”并非心机，而是一种大局观的智慧。

在此，首先要感谢法域道场，佛护尊者，慧主尊者的陪伴，开示，还有法务人员（为法服务的人员，或义工）的无私付出（课程安排，住宿，吃，喝，拉，等），还有每个参与者的互动，讨论，法域里真的个个卧虎藏龙，感谢每个人事物带来的因缘。也要特别感谢 Brother Ong 慷慨提供的顺风车便利；也深深感谢两位中医师的义诊与调理，缓解了我手指与背部的宿疾，更无私分享了宝贵的健康知识。

这次课程通过一个高纬度的实战大项目，让我们模拟如何制定战略。虽然这些方法不能直接“Plug and Play”，但它给了我一个框架。接着，便是回到生活里“自净其意”，引用到个人。

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My Farewell Note to GML IFRS17

This post is dedicated to my ex-colleagues from Company A which later became Company G. I wrote this in English because few of them are Banana(s), and I committed to write this without passing through ChatGPT or Copilot to ensure it keep the 100% originality. SO, if you find any bad grammar, or some words/sentences not beautifully written, please shift the focus on it’s authenticity and the gratitude message that I want to deliver.

I supposed to write and post this on my last day 15^th. But because I started my new job on 16^th and the new job requires my immediate attention, and 100% dedication, so I have been dragging and now only I managed to find some times to sit peacefully, to reflect, and to share few words from the bottom of my heart. Let’s DELAY NO MORE.

Definitely there are few colleagues that had placed a heavier weight in my heart than others, and the weight may or may not goes in proportion with your actual body weight. There are several factors affecting the weight (not body weight), just to name a few:

(some are adding to the weight, some are subtracting, and I’m not gonna tell you which is which)

1. The length of time that we worked together, or spent together in gym
2. the tasks/project/hardship that we went through together,
3. the frequency of our thinking, or the topic of interest that we shared,
4. the amount of food that you cannot finish and let me eat,
5. the laugh/smile you react to my cold/lame joke
6. the amount of rolled eyes you given me
7.  …..

 

Regardless of the weight, we had created lots of precious memories together. So now I am going to thank each and every “surviving” colleagues.

 

Andy T

Let me start with you, Andy T, as we have worked together the longest. We knew each other virtually during MCO, and by just looking at your name (not Andy) I thought you are girl. 😅You have been very kind and patience in providing help and support for many things, be it work related, planning for team activities, away day, festive celebration, sports, and many more. Without you in the company, the fun of working will be greatly reduced, and the time spent to think for where to lunch will be doubled. (luckily I ciao before you ciao) Thanks for bringing us lots of nice desserts to treat us. 😍

 

CSR (not Corporate Social Responsibility)

My best partner since I rejoin the Company, both of us formed the alliance of左青龙，右白虎 to support our superior. (sorry for exposing your age, but no one can ever tell your true age from your appearance, always looks 12 years younger than your actual age). I always admire your foresight, on how you plan for the tasks and resources ahead, and iron out the road map to consistently deliver decent quality of works. The dedication you poured into the works is unparalleled, while you may appear offline in Teams, but yet can reply in split seconds.  😅 You had raised the bar too high for your successor.

 

Evy

Thanks God, you joined the team at the most critical time where I just about to lose my right hand (Niic). Honestly without you it will be chaotic to me, and I sincerely grateful for it. Same like CSR, Niic had raised the bar too high for her successor, yet you managed to cover and provide solid support despite your exposure with 17 is minimal. You had delivered way beyond my expectation, where you had shown great independence, sharpness, accountability, adaptability, flexibility, and many more _____-bility.

 

FooSY (Hugo)

Surprise! Why I write you first? Because at some point I thought to just write in alphabetic order. 😂 Not really know you long and well enough to write much, but the QBR slides that you prepared are really nice and pro.

 

Gwyneth

I never know you got ang moh name “Gwyneth” until you work here. 😅 Supposedly you ciao before me, mana tahu you get extended and extended until now I ciao liao, you still there. Don’t know got one day you will be extended until permanent? Our relationships is complex, and I don’t feel like write it out…. You know I know lar…. And this is the.. 2^nd? Or 3^rd time you farewell with me? Haha. Anyway, I am certain our path will cross again in the future…. Let’s wait and see.

Jie Yee

Thanks God, you joined the team at the most critical time where I just about to lose my left hand (MM). Honestly without you it will be chaotic to me, but less chaotic than Evy’s case abovementioned, because MM eventually extended her notice period 😅 Nevertheless, I also sincerely grateful for it. Thanks for bravely accepted the challenging task (Group RA, I could never forget) although it may seem like an alien to you at that point of assignment. Anyway, you survived~ 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

 

Kin Sang

You have the greatest (body) weight among all. It is so motivating to see you starts your diet plan, and then it is so demotivating to see you stops your diet plan…… I really look forward to see the slim version of you. Please make it happens. 💪

 

Nicholas

Oh my Gym partner, so sad that I can never smell your sweat, and also listen to the “careless whisper” together while lifting weight… Damn this sounds too gay. 🤮 🤮 Originally want to get you to my team, mana tahu you rejected me, then later go join CSR 😡Everything happens for a good reason, and because of your rejection, I can maintain my profile as 韦小宝, and you seems to fit well and better under CSR.. so, ok lar. Please learn well from CSR, she has a high bar for you to raise, don’t need go gym to do the BAR-bell raise.

 

Roger

I can only think of 有间面馆…… because you ordered twice… (I also ordered my 麻辣twice).

Always heard from Edward that how pro you are at the coding, the legacy you left at company M, and the legendary stories of you. Sadly that you just joined for a while, then I have to go, unable to witness your superpower here. Take care for your health (but I don’t know how for your case), I guessed one of it is to not over-work ba.

 

Teng LY

Thanks God, you joined the team at the most critical time where I just bid farewell to my backbone (JL). Honestly without you it will be chaotic to me, and I sincerely grateful for it. You have been learning fast, and roll eyes also very fast. If I took a picture every time you gave me an eye-roll 🙄, I think I need to buy the 2TB Iphone only enough storage.

Vivian

You are a very cheerful and funny person, I always think of 哈小美 when I see you. And when I see 哈小美 I think of you. And because my kids like to watch the cartoon, so I think of you a lot of times… 🙄 Thanks for involuntarily volunteered yourself to be the team fund treasurer. Don’t simply trade stocks based on tips or news, you will see the money easy come, easy go. 💸

 

YT

Sorry you are the last, because no one’s name starts with Z. 😅 We have worked together closely long before you being transferred to my team. You always so responsive, and sometimes you are the only person who react/response to my lame joke, or left a emoji for my messages. 🙏🏻 I will never forget the 25Q1, when we both worked past midnight just to fix the R&C for INRE. It was bitter at that time, and now when think back, it is still bitter. 😂

Please don’t create this bitter memory with others, leave it exclusively with me.

 

Phew, finally I have done leave a personalized messages for all the surviving colleagues. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

As for the non-surviving, my right hand (Niic), left hand (MM), backbone (JL), brain (CL) I would also like to take this chance to thank you all, collectively. (Sorry no personalized messages for you, but I will write upon request).

Lastly, I want to say to everyone: “without you, I could never be where I am today.” I am truly grateful that each of you has been part of my life journey. I have become better because of meeting you all, and I hope you all become better because of meeting me.

 

 

吉祥家庭营的学习分享

从决定写到现在已经过了两个星期，再拖下去就是不见了。

所以今天无论如何都要把它写出来

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 6月1号 - 3号，我带着一家人躲进了深山里。

（😅其实也没有很深，但是网络讯号很弱，外界“几乎”联系不到我）

因为我们参与了===> 吉祥家庭营， Mangala Family Camp

如果你要报名，抱歉，太迟了。

如果你有兴趣报名下次的（已知槟城7月会有一场），可以联系我，我帮忙牵线。

乘着记忆犹新，赶快把学习要点，感受等等记录下来，方便自己日后复习，也借机和大家分享所学。

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今年的主题如上面的海报所示，就是“让你因为遇到我而更好”。

单从字面上看，可能觉得“什么啦，这么臭美”。

但静心想想，如果生命中我们所遇到的人都会让我们更好，而遇到我们的人也因此而更好，那多好？

尤其是身为家长的，若知道孩子遇到的人都让他们更好，那身为家长的我们多放心，是不？

尤其在参与，一起体验，学习后，更觉得这主题取得真好，真妙~

好，接着和我一同进入深山~

到营地（法域， Dhamma Earth) 后，我们一家以男女被分配进了不同的住宿，在安置好行李，铺好自己的床单后，我们就到Sala Hall 集合......

吉祥营里所进行的活动，我就不一一阐述了，留着一些神秘让日后大家有机会自己体验。但一些学习要点，就在以下和大家分享，希望能利益大家：

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在开示环节，非常庆幸有机会向Bhante(尊者）提问了关于情绪管理这回事。

有时孩子做错事了，而家长正好有烦心事缠绕心中，很容易生起怒火。而怒火生起后，在处理孩子的方式/手法很多时候就不正确，不够细腻，未能深思熟虑了（多数直接就一个藤鞭hoot下去了)

尊者分享了“呼吸减火法” 和“加分式思考”（两个名字都是我“安”的😅，尊者没有如此命名）。

呼吸减火法 - 学习觉察到自己的情绪生起时，呼吸速度的转变。因为情绪生起时，正常呼吸的节奏会被打乱。当觉察到呼吸节奏的异常，先不要相信当下的思想，也别说或做什么，先深呼吸几次帮忙调解至比较平稳的速度，才进行思考。

如何思考呢？这时可用加分式思考：

加分式思考 - 常常在行动之前先问问自己（通过思考），“这样做，是加分还是减分，有没有帮助？”

给个场景：孩子吃饭时没坐好，一直爬上爬下，吃两口后又跑来跑去，结果把整盘食物弄翻在地上了，你会怎么做？

这时无论你决定怎么做，比如你决定把自己的情绪、怒火释放，直接发脾气，大声吼叫然后一个藤鞭往孩子hoot下去，先问自己，这个行为/举动是个加分，还是减分？

“加分式思考” 不止适用予教育儿女这条路上，生命中许多抉择亦如此。

简单吗？厉害的东西很多时候就是越简单。

（过后我思考，觉得这方法可能很被自己的主观、认知影响。因为我认为加分的，别人可能认为减分，所以有正见，正思维或许是使用这个方法必须具备的前提条件。如何具备正见，正思维呢？以佛法为依据吧。可能入门可以从守五戒，了解因果开始吧）

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Bhante(尊者）也分享，教育孩子，或陪伴孩子成长，很重要的就是引导孩子去思考事情的“因”。因为很多时候孩子们会产生情绪，或容易看到的，是“果”。

比如：

考试成绩差、生病了、玩具不见了、朋友不愿一起玩了，等等，这些都是“果”，孩子们不容易觉察到“因”，因为没有认真温习，因为经常乱吃少喝水，因为玩具玩完了没收，因为每次大声骂人等，这些“因”很多时候孩子们是知道的，但不“觉察”。当对孩子以问问题式适当引导后，孩子的觉察力就会提升，就比较懂得在“因”上下功夫。

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Bhante(尊者）也分享，学佛（正确学习了3-6个月后）的人应该有的力量：

（1） 不受伤的能力

（2)    快乐的能力

（3） 不败的法的力量 （别人怎么说都不会影响自己，慈悲喜舍，勇气，宽容。。）

这里加入自己的解读：

不受伤的能力 - 因为学佛的人深信因果，任何会让你觉得受伤的，其实都是"果“，而果是无法改变的，成熟了，就得承受了。而当尝着果时，应当深思其因，而后在因下努力。

快乐的能力 - 因为就容易修行的六道，就是人道；而在人道中，又能听闻佛法，了解因果， 实属殊胜，所以，还有不快乐的理由吗？

不败的法的力量  - 因为知道种了因，要结成果，还需要缘，比如种下种子后，如没有水分，空气，阳光，土壤，果实也不会结。所以当我们在学佛，行善的路上，如没获得善报，我们并不会对佛法没有信心，不会退败。

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愿此篇帮助我温习的同时，也能利益到阅读的你🙏🏻

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