撞椅子之旅

在一个风和日丽的早晨，我心血来潮......

天啊！太久没写部落格，连个开场白都不会写了，竟然退化到了小学生作文的开头。（绝无贬低小学生的意思）

话说突然就手痒痒翻到了本旧相册，看到了某张照片，一股能量就突然涌进那已经生锈，发霉，泛黄的写作能力（和本篇的开场白似乎矛盾了），所以就决定把这篇写下，回顾当时的故事。

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直接反高潮，让我先把那张照片摆上来！

照片中两位美女已经失联有十多年了

那时还没有“脸书”这东西，有没有人可以把我们连接起来吗？

请顺便把这篇当成寻人启事：淑芬，燕婷，你们在哪？

借着照片先来个人物介绍：

左到右：芬，婷，良，丰胸兄，我，涛，义

（唯有丰兄我加了个兄的尊称，因为看照片的站姿就知道他行走江湖多年，如果你zoom in 他的胸口还能看到一个“勇”字呢！你看，就连拍照也要找个中间位置来突出他的胸凶味）

时间点没记错的话，那是发生在Form 4 或 Form 5 后的假期。

因为我，涛，义的友情是在那时酝酿起来的，原因是我们一起在学校得了大过，到了还要见家长的地步，是患难见真情的兄弟。（这大过的故事可以用另一篇部落格来记录，先留个伏笔，但请不要太期待，因为是让人无语的大过）

良有个亲戚住在撞椅子！ 啊！还没解释什么是撞椅子。撞椅子必须用福建话发音才能理解，就是 LONG KAU YI ==> Langkawi.

对，这是一个Langkawi之旅。让我继续......

良有个亲戚住在Langkawi，好像是开了民宿，所以就jio了我去玩玩，那时丰兄好像是被江湖另一个帮派的大佬追杀，知道我们要去Langkawi，所以也决定一起去避避锋头。我就jio了共患难的好友，涛，义，然后也不知怎么地jio了芬，婷。

对！芬，婷是我介绍给其他人的。怎么认识芬，婷呢？而又怎么失联了呢？这可以用另一篇部落格来记录。

广告：

记得认识她们的同时，我认识了很多其他人。她们为我的人生增加了很多历练，其中一个历练我有记录过，就是这：马六甲年少情“神话”生活营 （Disclaimer: 我是通过某个生活营认识她们的，但不是这个生活营）

去了几天几夜，我忘了，在Langkawi玩了些什么，我也忘了。记得非常清晰的就是以下这一段，也是让我现在再回顾时忍不住偷笑的一段：

我们到了一个旅游景点，和“人造”有关的，不知是一个人造瀑布，还是什么人造石观光点，现在回想起来，那地方其实没有什么参观价值，但那时我们就是去了参观，现在已想不起那地方叫什么名，也很难故地重游了。

下车后，7人一起走，然后就不知怎样地分开走了.......

应该是我上厕所吧，所以离群了，接着记忆是这样告诉我的：

我走着走着，看到了涛，良，丰忧心忡忡地在一个类似山洞外的地方站着，望向上方 （那个不是山洞，类似山洞而已），从我的方向望去，我看不到他们在看着什么，当我靠近时才知道他们在看着坐在上面的义。

（什么？坐在上面？山洞上面？那个画面，请自己脑补，因为我确实想了很久，也想不到怎样用言语形容那个画面，只能用画的，但我的画工只有“风和日丽”，“心血来潮”，“不知不觉中到达”，“依依不舍地离开”，这一般的程度，所以我也放弃用画的，请自己脑补吧~）

女的芬，婷去了哪里？那时没人在关心这问题，因为Climax来料~

以下的对话不是捏造的，还原程度至少有80%：

我：Eh, 你在上面zomok?

义：没有zomok。

我：没有zomok酱你下来了咯，差不多要走料。

义：不要。

我：har?zomok不要下来？

义：我不会下来

原来义不知从哪里走走跳跳，就走到了那个山洞上方，然后因为不知怎么走回下来，就干脆坐下来等。（他的坐姿是类似坐在山崖边那种，如图下）

出处：用Google搜寻“坐在山崖边”找到的

（那山洞离地面其实不会太高，应该是两个人到两个人半，300到400多cm，所以跌下来不会死人，但是应该也会很痛下）

但，他是坐下等什么？要等到什么东西？等到什么时候？等到什么人？那时候没人知道，到今时今日，也是没人知道，我想，永远也不会有人知道。

可他的策略是正确的，因为他等到了我，涛，良，丰的出现，然后大家一起看着他，他也居高临下地看着我们。

你看我，我看你......

这样看来看去，是要看到什么时候？于是我自告奋勇，说: 不要看了，你在那边等我，我找个路去找你，然后再带你下来。

于是我离开了涛，良，丰，往义所处之地前往。殊不知，这一段我不在的时候，发生了一些事.......

非常幸运地，我成功找到了义刚才的所处之地，我用了刚才这二字，是因为我到达时他已经不在了。接着我隐约地听到了一些哀鸣的声音，于是我到了那个“悬崖”处往下看，结果我看到义趴在了地上，然后涛，良，丰在他旁边看着他。

到底是想看什么?

我飞奔地跑回去回合他们，然后匆匆忙忙地抬（还是扶，我忘了）义回Van里，想找个附近的医院看看。芬，婷也恰好如谜一般地出现，然后就一起出发寻找医院。

那个Langkawi之旅没记错是我，良，丰轮流驾车的，那时轮到我，我们上车就看地图，然后很庆幸看到附近就有间医院，然后就踩油飞奔过去。（那时没有smart phone，我用的手机是Nokia 2100，没有GPS来导航我们）

飞呀飞，感觉我们到了如地图描述的地方，但是我们看不到Hospital的字/招牌，看来看去都像是酒店比较多。我们继续查看地图以确认医院的所在地，然后看到原来附近还有家医院，然后就不假思索，继续飞奔过去。

飞呀飞，感觉我们又到了如地图描述的地方，但是我们又看不到Hospital的字/招牌，看来看去都像是酒店比较多。我们继续又查看地图以确认医院的所在地，然后又看到原来附近还有家医院，然后就不假思索，继续飞奔过去。（这一段我其实是copy+paste，然后加又字而已）

飞呀飞，感觉我们又到了如地图描述的地方，但是我们又看不到Hospital的字/招牌，看来看去都像是酒店比较多。我们继续又查看地图以确认医院的所在地，然后又看到原来附近还有家医院，然后就不假思索，继续飞奔过去。（这一段我其实又是copy+paste，然后加又字而已，基本上可以省略掉）

我们应该是找了三个医院或更多（所以上面不是毫无意义的copy+paste，是根据事实记录的），然后才决定认真地解读那个可恶，玩弄人的地图。

我们仔细一看，看到这Langkawi怎么会有这么多医院的，而且都算很靠近一下。

我们看到的sign是这个：

H for Hospital， 没错啊！

然后再看看地图的注释，Shit！H for Hotel!!!!!!!

然后再认真看看整个地图，确实一个小岛不可能，也不应该有这么干多间Hospital，我们要找的Hospital应该是以下这个Sign:

十 for Hospital, 学会了没有？

义被我们这样折腾，不知好气还是好笑，伤势也好了一大半（其实伤势原本也不算是很严重，就只是要求个安心，让Langkawi医生赚点钱），最后就索性不去医院，回住宿用内力调息就算了。好在义的金钟罩底子也不差，回住宿稍作调息就满血了。

就这样，小风波结束。

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记得那一段我离开了涛，良，丰，然后往义所处之地前往的时候，我说发生了一些事吗？

当时，忘记是哪位（涛，良，丰随便猜一个吧，你有33.3%正确），说看到那山洞旁的岩壁有些凹凸，可以小心翼翼地用攀岩法下来，然后那地方离地面也不是很高，如果失足跌下来他们可以合力伸出双手来承担他。就这样，义被打动了，然后他心动了，然后就行动了，然后下一幕就在地面呻吟了。

这伸出双手的手到底是去哪儿了！！！坑爹啊·~

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最后附上一张应该是在Langkawi之旅拍下的巅峰身材吧~

POE Assignment - review on movie "Shawshank Redemption"

To become POE coach, one of the assignment is to write review on several books and movies, and all the review are restricted to only 50-100 words.

50-100 words is really a challenge as I have too many things to write for the movie "Shawshank Redemption".

So, I wrote one review that abide the 50-100 words rule for assignment submission, and now I am writing one that has no words limit just to allow me to put down what I have felt, and learnt from watching this movie "Shawshank Redemption".

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This in fact is the second time I watched the movie "Shawshank Redemption". The first time I watch is for pure entertainment purpose (i.e. no purpose). It's a good movie, but I do not recall any "moral of the story" that I learnt from it, and even forgot that I had actually watched it before. (I think at least 10 years++ ago)

Andrew Matthews has said this in his book "Follow your heart" - "We reach point in our life when we are ready for new information. Until then, something can be staring us in the face but we don't see it". That's exactly what I felt after watching the movie second time. There are so many lessons to be picked up along the movie, but the first time watching it, I picked up NOTHING.

Only after so many years, and learning more things in life, when re-watching it, suddenly realize there are indeed so many lessons to be learnt from this movie:

Lesson 1:
I think Andy (the main character, in case you have not yet watch the movie) is a practitioner of "The 7 habits of highly effective people". He focused on his Circle of Influence instead of Circle of Concern.
He focuses only the things that he has the power of control. He has no control on his life sentence, but he has control on escaping it (although it took him 19 years of effort).
He has no control on how the prison guards choose to treat him, but he has control to create good impression using his knowledge in finance and law.
He has no control on how the government would response to his appeal letter for library fund, but he has control to continuously write a letter per week to persuade them.
[Lesson 1 key takeaway]: A lot of time we may say "we have no control", "we have no choice", but in fact the control is on our hand. The reason we choose to say "we have no control", "we have no choice" is because it is easier, and effortless to believe "we have no control, no choice". Taking control usually is more inconvenience, and requires more effort... are you ready to take control?]

Lesson 2:
In the movie Red (Morgan Freeman) describe the Prison as such:” These walls are funny. First you hate them, then you get used to them. Enough time passes, you get so depend on them. That's institutionalized.”
I could not help but think of our Habits, the bad one in this context. We all hate our bad habits (procrastination, not punctual, lazy, eating unhealthily, no exercise etc.), but if we do nothing on those bad habits, eventually we get so used to them and they institutionalized in our life.
[Lesson 2 key takeaway]: Habits are built up slowly, either the good one or the bad one. For the bad one, when it is start cultivating, one must be ALERT and get rid of it quickly. When the bad habit institutionalized, it becomes so hard to remove it. (Don't get disappointed, it is very hard to remove, but it is possible to be removed)]

Lesson 3:
In the movie there are two scenes of Red taking a bus. (I believe the movie did it on purpose to make a contrast). The first scene is Red just released on parole, taking the bus to the town. The second scene is Red heading to meet Andy.
In both scenes, Red is alone, Red is still on parole, and Red is doing the same activity (taking a bus). But the feeling and emotions Red had are entirely different.
In the first scene I believe Red's mind is focusing on "how am I going to survive outside of the prison alone", he is worry on living as a free-man. (as he has already been institutionalized)
And in the second scene, his mind is focus on all the good things that could happen after meeting Andy, and hence he is excited.
[Lesson 3 key takeaway]: It's not the things that we do that determines our feeling and emotions. It is what we focus on that determine it. Two people can doing the same thing, at the same situation but feel totally different. I recalled a blog written years ago which depicted this understanding clearly. 
Click it if you know how to read mandarin for deeper sharing- 随缘行善 (look at the session of 事后想法)

Lesson 4:
Tommy, the new inmates that eventually shot to die, has been spent time in prison since 13 years old. Tommy has never change his behaviour all this while because he does not find a purpose in doing it. He finally CHOOSE to change, after he has a wife and daughter, and that's also the time he is sent to the Shawshank Prison, where Andy is imprisoned.

[Lesson 4 key takeaway]: We always have the power to choose, and the resources is always there. Is only when we have finally made up our mind, and to commit on it, then suddenly we realize we have access to all those resources. (And all those resources have been there for very long time, maybe appeared in different forms)

Lesson 5:
Andy do not murder the two persons, but in the movie he owned it to himself. He said that it is because his lack of communication with his wife, that caused his wife to get an affair, and eventually lead to the incident.

[Lesson 5 key takeaway]: Shit always happen, and when it happens if we choose to play victim, that we will be controlled by the shit, instead of we control the shit. 
Shit happens for a reason, if we do not overcome the shit, shit will keep on happen, maybe in a different form, or context, but the nature is the same.

Lesson 6:
Andy broadcast the Mozart's music to the whole prison. Everyone were so immersed to the music and just stunned and enjoyed the music.
[Lesson 6 key takeaway]: We can choose to be happy or relax even our condition are seem to be worst. We may see a family of 4 earning 800/month and they are living happily; at the same time another family may have earned 30,000/month but not happy. Again, at any time, the feeling you experience is not by your condition, but your DECISION! (decision to focus on what)

There are surely more than 6 lessons to be learnt from this movie, just that I DECIDED (my decision) to stop writing more as I DECIDED to do other things now.

If you have also watched this movie, you are welcome to share what you have learnt from this movie. And also for the same scenes that I have shared above, if you have different learning, I am happy to know it as well.

Thanks~~

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